Be psyched about everything?

Be psyched about everything…. what on earth does that mean? It’s simple. It’s my philosophy. I’m the creator of this website, and my name is Todd. The way I see it, the whole point of being alive is to find excitement, joy and love around the things that are a part of our lives. Working as hard as we all do every day, only to end up becoming pissed off when the lawn mower won’t start, or getting angry when FedEx doesn’t deliver the package we’re waiting for, or our favorite TV show of the moment gets cancelled—or worse yet, getting short and snippy with those people we love most in the whole world—seems incredibly counterintuitive, counterproductive and fully un-fun. The whole point is to relish the roller-coaster ride, not to damn the bumps, curves and steeps.

So what’s my advice? What’s the solution if life seems like it’s sucking? It sounds too simple to be true and it’s harder than it sounds: cultivate a feeling of acceptance about everything that happens around you. In fact, take it a step further. Cultivate a state of being truly psyched inside of everything you do. It doesn’t mean just be happy all the time la la la, smile smile, joy joy, woo woo, and be touchy-feely about everything. That doesn’t work. In fact it tends to annoy people. That’s just a bumpersticker reality anyway. It doesn’t mean don’t change the things you want to be different, and it doesn’t mean let people walk all over you. This philosophy is not about how you “act” outwardly, it’s about how you “be” inwardly. It’s a state of mind, not a behavior. It’s a way of processing the world around you, not a show to put on.

It’s about realizing that we each have 100% control over how you FEEL about everything that happens. It means try to bring a feeling of pure childlike excitement to bear on all of your endeavors. It actually works friend, this not BS. Yes. It is possible to have something bad happen to you and still feel good about being alive. The bad shit doesn’t have to take YOU away from you. You still get to have you. You fix the things that don’t work, you make decisions about things and take actions, you don’t allow other people to hurt or abuse your good nature, and you do no harm to other people. Done.

Writer Thomas Lopez (a.k.a. Meatball Fulton) once offered via Jack Flanders’ business card (Jack is a character in one of Fulton’s many superb radio dramas):

“What appears to be coming at you, is coming from you.”

It’s this raw nugget of pure sage truth that makes a philosophy such as “Be Psyched About Everything” really come together. See, if you don’t agree with Jack’s assessment about reality, then you are on a different path than I. I will do my best to persuade you throughout the pages of this website that Jack has it utterly nailed, and that a state of acceptance—nay, pure raucous excitement!—about life is the secret to peace and happiness. All this in my humble opinion of course… nah, screw that, it’s totally true.

Life can be about joy without it being trite or cliché. It can be about joy because life is joyous. Does this all sound too hard? Does it sound stupid? Does it sound like it’s not worthwhile? I doubt if you’re reading this that you think any of those things. Still wondering how to get there?

I suggest you practice being psyched by actually spending time doing things that you REALLY love to do… all the time. Figure out what activities and ideas you deeply love. Experiment. Spend some time every day doing things that make you feel like you felt when you were a kid experiencing something amazing for the first time. Maybe it’s going on a roller-coaster ride, or watching a spectacular movie like Star Wars or The Wizard of OZ. Maybe it’s seeing a rock concert in floor seats or driving a race car really fast. Maybe it’s playing music or staying up till 4:00 AM with a best friend talking about the universe, or time travel, or love. The only way to become someone who is able to be psyched about everything is by practicing being psyched.

Dale Cooper in David Lynch’s Twin Peaks has this way of explaining it to his friend and colleague, Sheriff Harry S. Truman…

Dale Cooper: Harry, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don’t plan it. Don’t wait for it. Just let it happen. It could be a new shirt at the men’s store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot black coffee.

This idea of “Be Psyched About Everything” came out of my mouth at my 30th birthday party in Seattle. I sat in a room filled with my closest friends, and the question was asked of me: “What is the most important thing you’ve learned in 30 years of being alive?” I thought to myself for about 15 seconds, and I was asking myself, what is it. What is the thing I will offer all of these friends right here right now, that is at the core of who I am and how I live in the world. Something useful. Something true. Something catchy… and it just popped out.

For my 40th birthday, my brother Jesse wrote me a song… you could almost consider it a musical roast of sorts. I take it as a love letter, a deep appreciation and understanding about what it is to truly be psyched; which Jesse totally gets. It’s a funny song, catchy, extremely well-written, and loaded with all sorts of in-jokes and personal references that most of you who know me will get. Jesse’s working on the final release version, but I have the birthday party mixdown version linked here. (One thing to know is I have always been a huge Rush fan, and Jesse included a slew of quick-in/quick-out Rush-riffs in all of the transition moments of the song… see if you can pick them out! I’ll post the final mixed/mastered version here when Jesse is done with it. For now, I think it sounds mint!

>> MP3 of “Be Psyched” by Jesse P. Howard

Check it out, and let me here you say:

“Be psyched about everything no matter what the thing to be psyched about is. It is a matter of pride to be psyched about everything there is to be psyched about!”


One Response to “Be psyched about everything?”

  1. Brian Rabuse says:

    Well said brother. There is plenty to be upset about in the (or our own) world, and there is plenty to be thankful for.

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